Most of us don’t discover what we trust when life is going well.
We discover it when love places us in a position we can’t control.
It shows up when you’ve been kind, honest, and present, yet you’re still unsure where you stand.
When you’re waiting for clarity that hasn’t come.
When you’re tempted to send one more message, explain one more time, or adjust yourself just enough to be chosen.
That moment reveals something important.
Not how much you love, but what you trust.
When trust in God is shaky, love becomes work.
– We monitor tone.
– We replay conversations.
– We wonder if we said too much, or not enough.
– We begin treating uncertainty like a problem to solve, instead of a space where God might be at work.
But when trust in God runs deep, love changes posture.
– It softens the shoulders.
– It loosens the grip.
– It slows the urge to explain, convince, or prove.
This posture teaches us something:
we are responsible for how we love, not for how it is received.
That is the lesson love quietly teaches us.
If we feel anxious in love, it’s often not because love is wrong, but because trust is divided.
Scripture anchors us in this truth:
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.”
— Psalm 37:5
God’s action does not always look like the result we hoped for.
Sometimes His faithfulness shows up as restraint.
Sometimes as redirection.
Sometimes as the quiet realization that what required pressure was never meant to stay.
Love reveals what we trust when we stop trying to manage the outcome
and choose to rest in God’s care instead.
If love has to be forced, it’s not faith, it’s fear wearing hope’s name.
Love stops reaching for reassurance
when the heart finally learns where its security lives.
If this resonated with you, pause for a moment and reflect: What might it look like to trust God here instead of striving?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, feel free to share in the comments below.
For more faith-filled reflections check out Love Beyond Winning And Losing. , Love Without Expectation, Love Is Not Supposed To Hurt, Love Begins With God, Not Us, and continue the journey of growing deeper in love, trust, and truth.
